Dear friends and colleagues,
I want to describe to you my concepts on the difference between fixing and healing and ask that you “listen” as if what I am saying is outside of the box of what you already know. I believe this idea of listening outside of the box of what we already know is a key – not just to true understanding, but also to helping our clients grow. It allows us to give our clients the respect they are due; to respect that they, not we, are the true experts on who they are and what their dreams are.
Ok…my definitions of fixing and healing:
Fixing: (note: This was written specifically for energy medicine practitioners, but applies to all therapies for which communication, both verbal and non-verbal, is an integral part of the healing process.) A person comes in with physical and/or emotional and/or mental and/or spiritual pain. You talk with them, listen empathetically, and lay hands on, perhaps do a technique or two and after a few releases, miraculously, the person is free from pain and free to go back to their lives the way they were before they were in pain. This way of working is helpful to probably 80% of the population that are in pain. It is also, in a sense, easier to do personally. We can stay in our own “BOX” or what I call our “SMALL MIND” and be the expert healer/therapist/helper. We know what is wrong and we know how to fix it. We don’t have to venture out of our own BOX while we are working. As I say, this is a very effective way to help the majority of people that are in pain.
Healing: In nature everything grows, everything expands. I have organic apple, pear, cherry, and peach trees on my property. When they grow new wood and branches and they produce vibrant flowers and fruit, it is a sign of health. We are nature and we are also healthiest and enjoy life the most when we are growing and expanding! Just like in nature, if we are not growing, we are dying. So when we help people (or ourselves) to imagine a life, an adventure, that would give them more joy, more satisfaction and more meaning in a way that is in harmony with who they are as unique, one-of-a-kind individuals and then support them to take steps towards their dreams, this is what I call “HEALING”.
In this process I have learned a tremendous amount about the nature of DESPAIR and how it is often PAIRED with our DREAMS. Despair tells us that no matter what we do we cannot have our dreams. We cannot have what we long for…what we desire. So when we begin to imagine, with all of our senses, a life we would love MORE, we are beginning the process of putting out new branches on our tree with blossoming flowers and fruit, and we often run smack into despair – especially when we begin to think about taking concrete steps to more fully realize our dreams. My teachings are about helping ourselves and our clients to navigate the terrain of despair, fear, and anxiety so we can become more FREE through growing in the direction of our dreams.
If you are interested in living more fully, with more meaning, purpose, and passion…
If you are curious about creating a vision for your life that is in harmony with who you are – as a unique one-of-a-kind human being…
And if you are interested in the influence that your thinking has on manifesting these dreams.
You may find it of great value, as I have, to experience how our thoughts affect our ability to manifest the life we want, and even more importantly which MIND we are using that is creating these thoughts.
- Highly Creative
- Open to Adventures
- Naturally Resonates with Universal-Mind/Source/God)
SMALL MIND is:
- Best used to manage details
- Figures out concrete steps to complete a goal
- Creates isolation when it takes on the leadership role in our lives and constructs numerous obstacles to forward movement in the name of safety and protection.